Communication

Communication. I am so sad about our future generation. This generation lies so heavily on our phones, I-pads, and technology in general that it’s nearly impossible to teach them how to have a communication with one another. Each and every one of us have been in a situation where we have hit send on a text only to wonder and hope that it isn’t taken the wrong way, and then we get a reply that tells they did indeed take it the wrong way. Then a silence ensues, a friendship is ended, a relationship is lost, and all because we wanted to handle our business in a text.

Raising teenagers is difficult. Raising teenagers in a world that relies so highly on technology is even more difficult. I can’t tell you how many times Emma has come tearing into the house because someone passive aggressively sent her a Snapchat or posted on a Instagram post but didn’t @her. Trying to make her understand that the only way to get back in good with a friend, or to not have a relationship end is to physically talk to the person. Even then, she acts as if I have just said something foreign to her. This is the age that we live in.

I am over 100% certain that the reason that I can not sit down and talk with their dad is because of the texts and emails that have been either misinterpreted or misconstrued. It isn’t for lack of trying, however I have sat down with them, after they stood me up for the first dinner, and have tried to get on the same page with him and his wife. I walked away full of hope until the first appointment that I needed him for and Emma wasn’t where she was supposed to be on time. I was screamed at while at doctor’s appointment of my own, and we were right back to square one.

When we go to dinner out, or even when we have dinner in, we do what is called phone stack. I have to admit when having dinner in no one ever carries their phone to our dinner table, but when out it seems to be more of a challenge. Phone stack happens after we are seated and our drinks are taken that way everyone can finish their sentence, sent their text, snap their location, or post on their finsta how they are having a dreadful family dinner. Truth be known, my oldest children love it and take the phone from the younger if they tend to linger after I have said “phone stack.”

Interpersonal relationships can not be replaced by Artificial Intelligence relationships. Having talks with your children, teaching them how to communicate with others, being in their life, asking questions and both staying informed and keeping informed is the only way that this generation stands a chance at interpersonal relationships. Use my situation as an example. I talk to my kids every day, we have family dinner, they tell me more than what I want to know most of the time, and in the case of the man in the closet, I still missed some things going on right under my nose.

Communication doesn’t come easy for all of us, but in the end it is so worth it. Stay informed on where your children are and what they are doing, call and check on your long distance friends, don’t rely on Facebook and Instagram for updates, and last tell the ones you love that you love them every single day face to face. Artificial Intelligence ie: smartphones, tablets, texting etc =Artificial Relationships. Make communication a key in your home, and watch how great your relationships with others can become.

K